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7 Proven Ways To Build Confidence And Get The Life You Want

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Confidence is the cornerstone of success

Confidence is the cornerstone of success. It’s the self-assurance that gives you boldness and helps you succeed at your dreams, despite doubt, fear, or uncertainty.

Without confidence, even the most capable people would fail at their goals simply because they don’t believe their efforts will pay off.

So what can we do? What are some proven ways to build confidence?

I’ve put together a list of 7 ways that anyone can take control and create lasting changes to build their confidence step by step and enjoy better living experiences along the way!

  1. Start with what you have

  2. Focus on your strengths and not your weaknesses

  3. Be grateful for all that you do have in life, instead of focusing on what you don’t have

  4. Change the way you talk to yourself about yourself

  5. Laugh it out

  6. Speak up more often

  7. Learn something new every day (even if it’s just a word) – this keeps the mind sharp and active, which can help build confidence over time

1) Start with what you have

The first step in building confidence is to start where you are and build on your strengths. We all have things that we do well, even if they aren’t always the first thing people notice.

Now that we’re getting older, maybe we’ve lost some of the sparkles that made us stand out from the crowd as a kid. But guess what? Our grown-up selves are much more capable than we think!

Think back to when you were younger. What did you love doing? Did you play an instrument, paint, or dance? Even though those activities may be irrelevant now, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t pick them up again!

You may be able to start a new skill or hobby to keep your mind sharp and active. You can even incorporate some elements that made it fun for you as a kid, such as a paintbrush with your favorite color or playing an instrument while dancing in the living room!

2) Focus on your strengths instead of weaknesses

Confidence comes from knowing exactly what we are good at. We all have different abilities that make us proud of ourselves, so it’s easy to focus on those aspects and enjoy our successes more than failures.

In addition, it will allow you to gain confidence in yourself more quickly because if you’re doing something you love, chances are you’ll do it better than someone else who was just forced into doing it.

Even if you don’t feel like it, try and keep a list of all the things you are good at or have an aptitude for.

Whether it is cooking, decorating, writing, whatever! Make a list, and be sure to add anything that comes up over time.

Think about who you admire most in this world – Albert Einstein wasn’t talented with sports, but he was an incredible scientist!

Nobody is born being great at everything or possessing every skill out there. We all have to work up our skills and abilities until we’re confident enough in them to succeed.

3) Be grateful for what you have

There’s an old saying that goes, “You’ll never feel rich unless you know poor.” It may seem like a harsh way of looking at things, but it’s true! Sometimes we need to embrace the difficult things so that we appreciate everything else life has given us.

The next time you feel your confidence slipping, remind yourself of everything good you have in your life. Maybe it’s a great job, loving friends and family, or perhaps even just the fact that we’re alive!

Try and start each day with a positive attitude and be grateful for all the things around you. Do this, and you’ll soon feel like a new person!

4) Change the way that you speak to yourself

Our thoughts help shape our reality. If we tell ourselves something enough times, it will eventually become true! So if we are constantly saying negative things about ourselves, then there’s no wonder why our confidence is dwindling.

We need to change the way we relate to ourselves in our thoughts. Instead of focusing on what we don’t have or the mistakes we’ve made, let’s learn how to focus on turning those negative thoughts into positive words.

If you catch yourself saying something pessimistic about yourself, try and turn it around into a more positive light!

For example, if you said, “I always screw up at work,” then correct that statement by telling yourself, “I’m not perfect, but I do my best.”

You can also start making a list of all your good qualities as well!

The point here is to acknowledge any positives you may not see from yourself so that your minds will embrace them more than the negatives.

5) Laugh it out

Did you know that laughing is one of the best ways to boost your mood? Humor helps people with depression, anxiety, and stress.

So what better way to feel confident than by doing something that will also make you happy?

Laughing can help us gain a new perspective on things we may take too seriously or worry about too much. It can even give us a break from all the negativity in our lives for just a little while!

So if life gets heavy, take some time out to do something silly because you deserve it!

6) Speak up more often

We all have our own opinions and ideas, but sometimes we feel like nobody wants to hear them.

We know that deep down, they are valuable, but for whatever reason, we end up keeping a lot of those thoughts inside when we could be sharing them with others.

Even if you don’t think what you’re saying will make much of an impact, try speaking up anyway!

It’ll help boost your confidence by making it known that you care about these subjects and want to share your opinion, showing other people that you’re looking out for yourself and willing to stand up for your values.

If everyone else keeps their voice silent, then it becomes harder for us to take our own seriously as well.

7) Learn something new every day

Learning something new and challenging our minds is one of the best ways to gain confidence. If we know that we can continually learn, there will always be more information that we’re capable of understanding and retaining.

As long as you keep your mind active, it’ll start to feel like a limitless resource for knowledge!

Try taking classes voluntarily or enrolling yourself in a new club at school/college. You don’t need much money or effort to take up a new hobby – even going on Pinterest can teach you how to do something extraordinary!

The whole idea here is to learn and try new things because they will show you that your mind has room for growth and change; which makes us all feel pretty amazing

Final Thoughts:

I hope the list above has helped you in some way! Have you found anything that has helped improve your self-esteem?

How can we protect and build confidence in our daily lives? I’d love to hear your thoughts – let me know in the comments!

The choice is always ours to make. We are the ones who decide whether or not to be confident because it’s in our hands.

It doesn’t depend on how attractive someone else thinks we are, nor does it rely on being more intelligent than everyone else; it comes from within us and only us.

Now go out there, live a happy life, and embrace everything about yourself – you’re awesome just the way you are!

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